I feel like I need to talk about this because SEPTA is really really trying it with this Key Card. I just want to stick to the simple ways and keep getting a transpass and tokens. Oh but no, SEPTA always wants to be difficult. Not only did they introduce the Key Card, they raised the prices yet again. For what? Y'all can't even be consistent with the air conditioning on the bus and wanna raise prices? I really don't understand.
I've been buying a transpass for $24.00 downtown for years and now the price is $25.50? Where is this extra $1.50 working towards? Let me know! I could easily get a license but then I'll want a car and that's another bill. Ain't nobody got time for that. Back to the topic at hand. Because of SEPTA, I'm blaming the entire city of Philadelphia because why? We are not New York, we are Philly. I love my city but it can be so extra for nothing sometimes and the Key Card is just more proof to what I'm saying.
I was really shocked when I went to go to the booths under Suburban Station just to get handed a Key Card. I'm like, "No more transpasses?". I felt so old. These new age things aren't for me lol. I can get used to change but some things just need to stick to the basic ways. For example the chip on the credit/debit cards. The cashiers say "Use the chip" when I want to swipe. Can't I just swipe and get it over with it? They say the chip is "easier" but I'm standing there paying for my things for like 10 minutes. All you had to do was have me swipe and the transaction would have been set, ready and on its way.
Long story y'all, I'm really not with the Key Card. No offense to SEPTA, but damn can we go back to the old way?
Today is my baby sister's birthday. Today she would have been four. This picture was taken on her first birthday. Doesn't she look beautiful? Look at that pretty smile and face. When I first made this blog my first blog was based on her and it was entitled "God's Angel". I can't tell you how it feels when someone gives you life and a love you can't explain, it could never be replaced. When Kendal was born, I thought of so many things that we would do, how she would grow up and what kind of person she would be.
We didnt make it to see those days but when she passed I have to say that she left a lot of wisdom and opened my eyes to a lot. She taught me that no matter what you go through you just have to push through. We can hope for better days but even if the end is tragic there's something good that can come out of it. She became an angel. I'm still here to set a good example for my family and friends. I love and miss Kendal so much. I could write a book about her because that's the impact she left for me.
Kendal was truly a diva and she had a whole lot to say while she watched SpongeBob lol. SpongeBob was like my mom watching "Young and The Restless" everybody has to be quiet and let her enjoy it. Also her fashion sense was impeccable. My little baby was always cute for every holiday and the down days. As her finals days approached, I prepared for them but losing something that was so precious just didn't feel right because I never knew that one day would come. Today, on her birthday, going to her grave site felt really good because I hadn't gone in a long time. I thought I would be sad and cry but I didn't. I was happy that I'm at peace with the fact that she's not suffering or going through anymore pain.
Kendal you are beautiful and one of the prettiest angels I've ever laid eyes on. I do want you back in a different state of course. I want you to know that I love you and continue to watch over the family. Also make sure you give my nephew Latif a kiss for me and let him know that I miss him too. Don't forget Uncle Wayne! I hope God has a tablet for you. I always hoped for that. We know how you feel about SpongeBob lol. Lastly, I'll never forgot you 💕.
-Love Big Ken ❤️
Why do we depend on our friends more to be family more than our own family? I mean why can't family be like The Cosby's, ya know? I feel like family in 2017 is just not what it used to be and it's a shame because when it comes to family we should be able to stick together through whatever. These days it's not like that. When something tragic happens in the family, the whole family knows about it but judges the other family member. Sometimes when it's good news, "shade" is being thrown. For what? How about help that family member as much as you can or be proud of that family member that made a good accomplishment.
Family should be able to lean on one another no matter what the situation is. Especially in black families. Not that white families don't go through things but television is always showing the white families being there for another, being understanding of another and knowing how to love another. When it comes to black families, the sad part is they show dysfunctional families and some of the things that happen are going on in reality with these black families. The messed up part is, that blacks have accepted the fact that their family is dysfunctional and there's nothing to change that. What I personally think breaks a black family apart is secrets and the lack of communication.
If black families could be more honest about what happens or what has happened, you can teach the children about what to do and what not to do. We grow up thinking, "There are some things kids shouldn't know" but why not? They have to grow up to be adults and be better than the ones who raised them. In addition, there should be communication because if we don't communicate amongst each other we will continue to judge each other for our wrong doings instead of helping one another. Also there will be better understanding.
Black families matter and if you can't depend on friends, all you have is family.
I'm not going to lie, I wish I was this small again because life was SO easy. I had nothing to think about expect what toy that I would play with. I didn't have to worry about having the best grades, I didn't have to worry relationships and I didn't have to worry about the hardships of the world. I mean when you're little what do you really have to think about? NOTHING! Nothing is really that deep. I would cry because I had to go to bed early, not because someone broke my heart lol. I wish I could cry about little things like that because the next day I was over it.
As I got a little older, at that time I could go outside and play with the other kids. I would play with the boys because there weren't any girls my age on the block. All the girls were in high school so the boys were the ONLY option. I would play hide and seek, football and tag but I HAD to say stay on the block. If I went to the end of the block, I would get in trouble. Nobody wants to see their child anywhere but in front of the door because they don't know what could happen. During the Summer nights, I would chill with the boys in front my neighbor's house and talk about childish things. I was always the one to get picked on and I always had to get right back to argue with them lol. With that being said, anybody remember "roll call"? Because my mom was so good for calling my brother and I, in front of EVERYONE! Lowkey "drawn".
Aside from those memories, I miss coming home after school (middle school) to watch Disney Channel watching That's So Raven, Phil of The Future, The Suite Life of Zack and Cody, and all the other shows that WE all used to watch. If I could rewind time I would but I mean I wouldn't be as cool as I am today lol. I lowkey miss being in middle school and having the corny beefs about who liked who because now when I look back it was hilarious. Like really what did I have beef over and why did it happen? lol.
In general, I miss all of the days about being a kid and being a teenager (as I wrote this, life just hit me with the quickness lol). Middle school and high school was lit. I miss dancing and singing to everyone in high school. I was a such a clown in high school and always had to go back and forth with teachers (in a playful way) about my grades. I felt like if I didn't take my grades VERY serious, I wouldn't graduate and I was scared of my parents lol. I did cherish those moments but I wish I had the chance to cherish them a little bit more.
"Back in the days, when I was young, I'm not a kid anymore. But some days I sit and wish I was a kid again."
Who would have thought a young white guy from Philly had some fire bars?!?! I just discovered him on Instagram through @thewritefashion (follow her for the latatest news). I mean really he has talent. This right here goes to show you you can make anything happen. The fact that he's from Philly makes it even better. He's another one coming out showing us you can make it out of Philly by doing exactly what you love.
Just when I thought Philly was giving up, here comes the "bull" Matt Ox shutting it down! This actually made my morning and it's not even 12:00p yet I'm turning up to him. Forget all this talking fam, go check out Matt Oxs' latest rap "Overwhelming." As I say, "You don't wanna miss this!".
I see you "youngbull"!
When you let go of someone toxic you really HAVE to lose all contact with them. When a person hurts you, doesn't appreciate you, and/or doesn't value the person you are you have to find the courage to live without them. I'm not a relationship guru but I mean to best way to let someone go is finding yourself in the process. When someone hurts us it's usually because we refuse to see the signs and deal with this person knowing they're no good for us. We do it because we obviously care. Aside from caring we stay with a toxic person because we don't want to to start over and feel as though we can't find anybody better. Truthfully, there is someone for everybody that will cherish the love that we have.
Sometimes toxic people don't exist in just relationships, they can exist as friends or family. We are so quick to delete or block someone from social media but we fail to do that away from social media. The best way to get rid of someone who means you no good is to get rid of them in real life. A person will say they support you, care for you and do whatever for you but when it comes to some real help, sometimes they can't even be the first person you call. You have to look at people for what they mostly do more than what they say. People will talk a good game but won't back it up. Those who can't back up their actions are people you don't need in your life. Those type of people suck the energy out of you and use you for everything you've got without nothing in return. If you can't depend on someone who claims they're there for you, you don't need them around.
Today I read a meme that said, "You have to know the difference between someone who is gold and someone who is gold plated." In other words, look at people for who they are on the inside and not the outside. Toxic people will always find a way to ruin your happiness because you let them and they go as far as it takes until they've gotten everything from you. The best way is talk walk away and you don't owe anyone an explanation for deciding to be selfish and doing what's best for you. There are too many people in the world to stress over one or stress over those who were never good in your life to begin with. You don't need approval from anyone but yourself. Choose yourself first.
What's going everyone? I hope everyone is enjoying their day in this cool weather. My new interview with Stackz (fmg.stackz) has finally dropped. Check it now!!!
Not too long ago, I was reading on Twitter about guys will do things such as wine and dine, buy things and go out of their way for women to like them in return. The things that a man will do for the woman he likes was also labeled as "plotting". Personally I feel as though this is true in some ways because a majority of guys will go the extra mile just to have sex and that's the only thing they WANT to offer not necessarily HAVE to offer. A man will only fight for someone who he wants around when it's more than just sex. There's love involved at that point. Back to the topic. Now, I also feel like whether you like men or women, you will do anything in your power to pursue that man or woman you want because they have certain qualities that you like about them. This is to say this isn't plotting, it's pursuing.
As you are pursuing, you should not feel entitled to getting the same things because you're doing it. People are going to do things because they WANT to. Also, if you're going out of your way to get something in return you'll never get it because you're doing it for the wrong reasons. Don't get me wrong, you have evey right to feel like you deserve to be treated the best but don't do it for the wrong reason. When you do right your blessings will come but you have to be appreciative first.
Entitlement is a heavy topic because people feel that someone owes them something when in reality, nobody owes us anything. We do deserve what we truly desire but everyone isn't set on the same mindset and heart. Once we realize this we well lose those expectations and disappointments. We naturally feel like because we did something out of the kindness of our heart and it's because of this reason we feel the need to get something in return. But, really ask yourself what entitlement do you really deserve when you're doing the things you are with your mind solely set on getting something back or feeling like that person NEEDS to be with you?
In some situations, people will ruin good relationships and come back in hopes to change a situation but what's the motive? Sometimes the motive is to come back and think the damage is to be fixed and forgotten. This here is like asking a person to forgive you and take you back on the strength that they've forgiven you. Nobody is entitled to do anything they don't want to do or have to do because YOU want them to. Think about this!
I feel like a lot of black men feel that they have too much to prove to other people. Black men are so protective and feel the need to be the tough one most of the time. I mean men are strong beings inside and out so maybe they feel the NEED to be aggressive about certain situations. What men need to understand is that it's okay to have feelings and be expressive with those feelings. Men were taught to think you can't cry, you can't express yourself, you can't have feelings. Men are just as human as women. Also you don't see a lot black men in the media showing an aura of happiness because society doesn't want that. Soceity wants to continue to show the world that black men are nothing and that's not true.
Black men deserve to be happy and they deserve to express that. Unfortunately, when a man shows his inner peace or expresses himself he's considered gay. What about a man being happy makes him gay? I can't answer that because it's not gay. Can't he not be happy? Women can be happy or feel liberated and a man should have that right too. I see men like Jay Versace being very open with who he is and people bash him for that. Just because he's black, he's happy and living his life in the way he wants should not affect the next man.
My personal view on "black boy joy" is that it's what we need to see. We need to see more black men happy and feel loved for who they are. One of the main reasons they don't feel need to be happy is because they feel like they haven't had that right or being from a broken home. When you love a black men that's when their joy reveals. We have to love our black men a little bit better and a little bit stronger. If we don't they'll always feel like they aren't "ALLOWED" to be happy. Black men, it's okay to be happy. Life's too short to be miserable.
Women already go through enough and are very strong people might I add. I want to say that putting your hands on a woman is never okay. If you have a problem with something you should know how to talk it out and come to a solution. Women are very delicate and emotional creatures. We take a lot of things serious and feel as though if we deserve to be treated as queens and that's what we deserve. Also men deserve to be treated as kings as well. The fact of the matter is, why should women have to deal with the things they do because they are "looked" at as weak?
Women aren't weak. We have to deal with pregnancy, the fear of being attacked by men, try hard to look good and deal with the norms of society. Speaking of which, in 2017 times have changed. Women are beginning to realize what it means to to be a woman and how it important it is to the world. Woman are beautiful and need need to treated as such. As I mentioned before and which led me to talk about this was a woman who went out on a date and it ended badly.
There was a woman who met a guy from Instagram and ended up being brutally beat up by him. The question I have is why? Why do that to someone? If I were a guy who dealt with domestic violence in my household I would make a promise to myself in my life to do better because that is a wrong doing overall. There are so many men who gripe up in a household and feel the need to hit a woman because they feel like it's the "best". NO! It's not the best! Don't use your past excuses to get away with the things you do.
Woman make the world go round and if you can't handle a strong woman then you don't deserve to be with her. Domestic violence is wrong! Point blank!
My name is Kennedie. I am a young woman still learning the ways of the world and how to manage. I am currently pursuing a degree in Mass Media. My purpose in creating my blog is to inspire others and to share as well as receive different points of view.