I chose to talk about this topic because myself and other people around me have dealt with a certain level of depression caused within the home we are from. Not to get into details but in the Black Community we are trained too often to be strong and not let our emotions show but why? White folks get to do it every day in and outside their home. They do this by being honest first and expressing their emotions regardless of how other people feel. Not only that, look at who is our president is, he even gave them some more room to “go off”. When a black person may feel am emotions we are deemed as too emotional, we need to get over it or we need to be strong. How many times do we need to hear this until we get the help we need or at the deep end?
Most African-Americans deal with this because of the lack of emotional support! Also because most of how our parents were brought up without the emotional support as well. What some of our parents fail to realize is that subconsciously they have brought the act of lack ofemotional support due to our grandparents and think because they give us THINGS, we are NEED to necessarily be grateful. In the end we are grateful but when we need them the most when it comes to our mental, they didn’t get that support so they don’t how to do THAT part of parenting. This topic is very important because this cycle is becoming detrimental to even the younger generation. Why do we have to continue the cycle when it can be stopped? It takes one person in the generation of our families to choose to want to do better for their family.
The black community needs to understand their lack of not trying to emotionally support themselves or their family leads to bigger problems such as a lack of communiarion. Communication is not about what you say but how you say it. Then these emotional problems become so poison that it affects their relationships and friendships in the near future. People who don’t want feel emotions become broken and end up knowing how to heal or how to deal with their emotions as well. Also, the Black Community needs to take in the fact that getting help to be a better person emotionally is okay too. Helping yourself is loving yourself and only one person can break a generational curse. That person could be YOU! Don’t fall short of you who you are because of what you were taught. Be better and grow in the way that you need to.
These reasons explained above are reasons why the Black Community deals with mental health because there needs to be more people around us that show they care. Less talking and more doing! That’s all folks!
I present here to you all the Bisexual Pride Flag! Not many people show it or talk about it much but I do pose a quearion to ask the majority. What does majority of people in LGBTQ have against bisexuals to the point that their energy becomes negatives towards people who are? I hear a lot about people being biphobia because they believe Bisexual makes makes and females confused or spread STDs! I could understand why people would think this but this does not apply to everyone. There have been many people online who have been transparent about being bisexual and they simply like both genders. Being a bisexual female, I can only speak for myself and say that I would rather date both sexes on two occasions and not at the same time. To me, I don’t think it’s right and that can be just as dangerous as being a heterosexual male or female dating two people at once. That’s just me though. When people think of Bisexuals they are put in the mindset that a male or female wants to date both another male and female at the same time. That’s not always the case and you can’t deem all people for what one person does.
I have also met people who claim to be lesbian but have “stepped out” of their sexuality to have sex with a guy. This situation also happens a lot as well but it is less talked about. Why is is that Bisexuals have to have some of the most negative connotations deemed against them and it’s happening in the community where they feel most accepted? People have had thier doubts against me and to me, though it wasn’t offensive it was a good deal breaker to let these people know that Bisexuals don’t have to be put in this box. People can simply ask questions or start a conversation piece about someone who happens to like who genders at the same time without going off of what other people are used to hearing.
People also have the right to their opinion but when people don’t try to get the facts on a certain culture or sexuality it becomes an underlying problem. Some people would rather keep their thoughts and opinions and run with them without knowing facts, while others become open minded and want to know more. We can’t tell people how to think but it’s always good to inform others on what they don’t know. For example, there are people in straight relationships who like the other gender, there are others who want to date both at the same time, and there are some people who are in same-sex relationships who are still attracted to the other gender. People have thier preference and like who they like just as much as other people in the heterosexual and especially the LGBTQ community. OPEN YOUR MIND! That’s all folks!
Honestly, an open relationship can only be what you make it. If you’re open to meeting other people and you and your partner have anundestanding then that’s fine. For me, I personally could not do that because to me you’re telling that I am not worth all that YOU need in your life! Why would you want more if I am all that you need especially if you choose or chose to marry me as well. If I’m going to marry someone it’s because they come second to none and they will always be the only one who will have my back though any condition. Sometimes people like to hold on to things because of what they can get away with but if that’s the case, maybe you shouldn’t be with that person.
I wouldn’t know how to process the thought of my partner wanting to share their love with someone else when I’m all the love that they supposedly need. This is not be selfish but when you build a foundation of love with one person, why do you need two partners to make you happy? If there is something that he or she is lacking, that’s where compromising comes into play. Not all of us like every attribute that our partner possess but there are the good qualities that overpower the qualities we may dislike. Also, I pose this question, why be with someone if you want to give your all to another person or other people as well? I couldn’t give all of me to another person or people because they don’t possess with my partner already has for me. Once you know what’s for you, what other people have shouldn’t get in the way of that if you already know what’s for you. As they say, what’s for you, will always be for you.
Take in consideration what you really want out of a relationship and if you can handle being open with you are with other people. There are many people who aren’t looking for love because they need help and they want to pour that energy on you. You can’t help or guide anyone who can’t do that for themselves. That’s all folks!
These days so many people are so woke and all for positivity but it’s only online. A lot of people are living double lives not realizing that outside of the internet it’s okay to feel and be you. When people get online they get caught up in the quotes and try to live by them when most of these accounts are created by people who also go through their own trials and tribulations. These people don’t have the last say so or the key to your happiness through THIER words. No one has all the answers. When did people think that because someone offers or give advice that they actually had the EXACT answer? That’s impossible unless they have gone through the same exact situation.
Everything I’ve just written above is something we already know but there are so many people that are now into chakras, the universe and energy but since when? Did they learn from others around them or internet influencers? Are people doing this because someone is doing it or are they doing this because they see the outcome of what executing “good vibes” has done for someone else? Not that we have the answers to these questions or that we should be worried about why another person is making a decision. This is just something to think about when people are suddenly doing the same exact things but really have no idea what they’re doing is really about. Also, why they’re doing it.
We can’t base life off of the words or actions of an account we really don’t know. Many of the things we see on the internet is fake so who is to say that this person you’re getting “good vibes” from is actually helping you or inspiring you? Know what you are doing and why you do it for your own good. To get caught up into something that can potentially harm you in a way causes you to lose pieces of yourself forgetting who you are. Don’t get caught up in the trends and live YOUR life! That’s all folks!
Having a select few of friends who have different personalities can be a gift and a curse. Are you the quiet one, the loud and crazy one, the emotional one or the ride or die? I would love to say that I am all in one but if I really had to choose which one, it would be none because I’m more of the therapist lol. I think having friends with balance makes the friendship fun and grow. If you meet people who don’t have much to give you or you can’t get anything to benefit from as far as energy, what good are they? I even appreciate those friends who know you like the back of your hand and will be honest with you.
I look at it this way, if you don’t want a friend or friends who can be honest with you, then you don’t want friends and can’t appreciate the ones that you already have. When your friends balance you out then you have the best crowd to be around. I mean who wouldn’t want friends who balance them out? You don’t want people who are just like you because you need to see things from a different perspective. Don’t be afraid to make friends as well. I have had bad experiences but I don’t let those experiences get in the way because you really don’t know who you’re going to meet. Also, know the difference of who is for you and who just wants to be around you to take away your good energy. Be that friend that can be dependable and be that friend that you would want others to be to you.
Don’t be afraid to just put yourself out there. I’ve met a lot of people because of my energy alone and it has brought me back some good people. I have people I have known since high school and we are still cool today. Being the friend that I am, I am glad that people can say a lot of great things about me because I never want to be that person let anyone down let alone a good friend when they have been there for me. So with that being, which friend are you? Provide balance and remember no matter what friend you are, it’s not always about you. That’s all folks!
Who is anyone to tell you that they are entitled to be in your life if they serve no purpose? I talk about this a lot because we are living in a time where people don’t understand love and they don’t understand how vital protecting your energy can be. Some people will even waste their time on a person just to say they have someone and that’s not okay! When do you even tell yourself what you’re putting up with is not okay? Don’t waste your life living in regret because you didn’t have the heart to cut someone off who you knew was never was good for you to begin with.
I mean let’s be real! If you want to live a happy life you can’t keep up with bad habits or bad people because no one is forcing you to keep bad energy around. Remember that you have control over your happiness and what you do with it is up to you and no one else. Cutting off ties doesn’t always have to be with someone you’re intimate with but people who you are friends with as well. Some people don’t need to have your energy because they don’t even know what to do with you. So remember cutting off ties is important because some people can’t handle who you are. This is not about them, THIS IS ABOUT YOU!!!
Ask yourself who you plan to be and where you want to go! Is this person or those people worth waiting for or worth your time to join the road with you? If you have to second guess this, think twice! Holding on can hurt you more! Thanks for coming to Ken’s Talk! Talk to you again tomorrow night! That’s all folks!
I understand fully that Kanye West is trying to do things for the betterment of the black community but it’s the way he’s going about it, is where I have to draw the line. Honestly, I think anyone no matter what the color is, who has the heart and intellect to talk to the President is courageous. We are talking about sitting in front of a man who is not of color who doesn’t like people of color and wants to change things for the worst and stands by that. Now we have the West’s’ taking action but it’s the way they are going about it. First we saw that Kanye was just supporting him but we didn’t know that he would go this far. Then it takes his wife (let’s not forget who is known for the biggest ass in the industry and a porno which I’m sureTrump heard of). Why wouldn’t Trump listen to these people?
People are saying Kanye isn’t a coon because of what he’s fighting for but it’s not about that. Kanye is making the black community mad because he’s belittling himself to make a point when he does not have to. Also, let’s not forget the fact that he once said George Bush doesn’t like black people but as soon as he’s on one of the biggest calibers in the industry, he’s someone else. Who is he other than Kanye West and that is what we are trying to understand. Is this an act to get what he wants or does he truly support and love Trump like he says he does? Not to mention, this is a person who struggles with mental health himself! I’m not saying he has to be militant with Trump but there are ways other than belittling your character and forgetting who you are or where you come from to take action. Make Kanye Great Again! That’s all folks!
I don’t think we should be surprised at the fact that we got the alert the other day. We also know how the American government is and what they are and have been capable of doing. This has been going on for years but they have kept it a secret for so long that it condodtioned us to believe that we were in a safe place or in good hands. When you have money already controlling people, how could the government not doing any more harm? Now, we are controlled by technology and they have full access to everything. For years, we have known this but have we really acted on it? Not at all. This is a scary thing to think about and if you haven’t realized by now, what the government has done and still doing has already been talked about. They have been talked about through subliminal messages in cartoons and movies as well.
If anyone has ever read 1984 by George Orwell, the main point I want to press about that story is how there was someone’s Utopia (a state of things or place where everything is made perfect) control people by their minds, what they wear and how they live day to day. We are controlled by bills, technology and the things we wear. Everything involves money and we always have to spend it or feel the need to spend it because we want to be able to afford how we want to live. The reality is, we can’t live the way we want fully because of the way the government is set up to make sure our lives are dependent on them. Some of us are “woke” and some of us are blind to the truth. Also, there are others who don’t want to accept the truth.
We know what we have do as a people and we have to be fully aware of what’s next to happen. How I look at it, as long as you’re doing your part and minding your business, life could be as happy as you can make it. Not that you should not be aware but life can’t stop because of what one man wants to do. We don’t know what else is next so we still have to live but be aware. That’s all folks!
The reason why I pose this questions because of the recent photo that the infamous Suge Knight posted yesterday. Another question that also came to mind was how in the hell was he even able to do that but hey that’s not my business. On to the topic at hand though. Tupac has a history of being more than just a rapper. He was an intellect and loved the black community with all his heart. His heart sang for black women as well. I can’t thank God enough for bringing such a gift into the lives and ears of all of us because he was truly a gift. If he was still alive, the rap game would be so different but if he is still alive what if he chooses to be more of an activist than a music artist? Tupac talked about things that we been should have listened to and opened our eyes to. Today we have Trump and imagine the things or measures that Tupac would make to get this man out of office, imagine what he would do for the black community and plenty of other things that would have gotten done. Tupac would be our president.
In additon, if he was still the rapper that we know him as, his music wouldn’t be appreciated enough because music today has been formed to condition us to be less intellectual taking away the importance of what the world is and the reality we live in. I don’t mean to come off as a conspiracy theorist but Tupac knew what the industry was about and what the government was trying to do especially to black people. Tupac was a teacher, lover and fighter. Most importantly he was passionate. We and a majority of other people could agree on this because there are endless documentaries of who he was so imagine the impact he would have on us today. We have Jay Z and this is not comparing the two but he does his part as much as does and can. Put Tupac back and the game and the world is changed forever. Those are my thoughts and that’s all folks!
My name is Kennedie. I am a young woman still learning the ways of the world and how to manage. I am currently pursuing a degree in Mass Media. My purpose in creating my blog is to inspire others and to share as well as receive different points of view.