These days men just want you to cater to their feelings as if you already don’t have to put up with enough. You have to come home, cook, take care of your children (if you have any), get yourself ready to be settled and still cater to your man. I mean a man who does pay the bills and takes care of the family, does deserve some catering to but what does the women deserve in return? Yea you too went to work and took care of the family but your woman had to come home and deal with the mess of everyone at home after dealing with the mess of everyone at work. Can’t she get some type of break?
Seems like these days when a woman is working towards her goals and dreams, there’s that one guy who think he’s “saving” her from working so hard. She’s working this hard to set her life up and to be sure she doesn’t depend on anyone but herself and God. If a woman lets a man take control of taking care of her she is also giving him that power to control yet let her down as well. No woman should have to depend on a man but be willing to give him that room to lead in a way that he’s supposed to. There are some men who are leaders but then you have those who are vultures. All the vultures want to do is prey on you and when you least expect it, they will attack you.
These days men are expecting way too much out of women and trying to tell them where their place should be. They want their women in the kitchen and in the sheets as if that’s the only positions she can play. She’s more than that. She has to feed you and have sex with you at any given moment? Wooooow! So what are you doing as a man to take care of your own needs when you can’t find that woman who will cater to you? As a man you should already be practicing self love to the point where you shouldn’t have to depend on any woman to make sure you’re okay. If only men lived on Earth and there were no women to help you, how would you survive on your own? Thank you for coming to Ken’s Talk! That’s all folks!
I don’t think people know how drangerous sex can be aside from just the STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) as supposed to Spiritually Transeffered Diseases. Sex can have you missing a person you don’t need to be thinking about or calling them knowing damn well you have no business doing so. Sex can be beautiful but then it can it turn out bad. The sex from this person can be so good that you end up staying with this person because of their sex causing you to forget who you are or your worth. Who needs that? I see so many women and men who stay with someone for sex but get treated like shit. These are the same people who say they wouldn’t allow anyone to hurt them but don’t realize the situation they’re in.
So let’s think about this. Are you having sex for pleasure or for worst? Now we all have sex but a lot of us really don’t think about the risk that we take. We also don’t realize who we are having sex with until after the fact. This person could be a stalker, they could end up loving you for the wrong reasons and they could end up using you. Sex with someone should be with someone you truly are in love with and love. Why? You know this person truthfully, they know you in the same matter, they know your body, they can go with your rhythm, they will love you in the way you need to and when that spiritual transfer happens, you will have a lot of the right attributes within you. Sex isn’t just sex but today, children are even taught about it but they are being taught about the price of a child and the diseases. That’s fine but it doesn’t stop there and it shouldn’t especially in 2019.
Think about how deep sex can get with someone before you lay down with them. Also, don’t just go around having sex with random people or a lot of people because you can’t control your feelings, PERIOD! People will say, “Sex is just sex” but is it really? Think about what could come around before you lay down. That’s all folks!
I always wondered why men and women claim that they have something or someone good but their side but some how mess it up cheating. Why cheat if you know you have something good by your side? We all know cheating is wrong and it’s really the easy way out to get away from anything but it’s not worth it. When people cheat they have this tendency to blame it on the people they cheated on and cheated with. Why do you blame others for the actions that you chose? First of all, you wouldn’t even put yourself in a position to hurt anyone that you love. You don’t win at all. Now that we got all of that out ... let’s talk about when these “church folk” step out. Come on out right?
Recently, I read about the celebrity Pastor John Gray and bus wife were going through a divorce which no one knew about and sources say that he even cheated with his mistress. In addition, not only did he cheat but he got her pregnant as well. To patch things up with wifey, Pastor Gray, bought her a new luxury car. Ok cool ... I guess. The gag is, he knew he was wrong but he doesn’t blame himself. He says, “The Devil made me do it.” When I was in school and having talks with my father, I was taught about the idea and acts of free will. The act and idea of free will is to make decisions on your own while knowing it’s wrong or right. When people make wrong decisions, they have this habit of blaming their actions on outside forces that have nothing to do with what they did. How do I know? I’m human and people are adults and have the ability to know what’s right or wrong yet will act on anything even if they know it’s a wrong. Sometimes it’s the thrill that keep them going!
”The Devil Made Me Do It” I feel like is a cop out in the church. This is not to bash the church but I find it crazy that it talks about free will but the people involved in church think that bad decisions has to always do with the outside world. When are people going to take accountability for the things they do and/or say? Most of the time, people go with this idea that they will pray the Devil out of that person. Not everything can be of the Devil if you are already aware. Think this through. That’s all folks!
I was always the type of woman who thought, “hmmm why not just go for it? I want it so let me get it.” Then I think about the morality of things too. As a woman and being blessed to have both parents by my side, they have both taught me about the roles of men and women. Now this one I will have to give to my mom and a lot of things that I have learned on my own. Some credit I can give to my dad but he can’t teach me EVERYTHING about being a lady.
Let’s get to it! One night I got in touch with my ex boyfriend and he wanted some Wendy’s. I didn’t mind since I was already downtown in Center City. I was only like 18 years old and I told him I’ll bring him the food because at the time he lived around the corner from me and I thought I was grown too. Who doesn’t think they’re grown at 18 years old? My mom was concerned about my safety so she texted me to see where I was located and I told her what I was about to do. Y’all ... her response was, “You deliver food to no n*gga.” Until this day I will never forget it because she instilled me that as my mom she raised me to be better than that and to be THAT lady she raised me to be. Also, I need to carry myself as such and a man will come to me, not me to him.
Though she taught me about being catered to she also taught me about being bold and going after what I want. My mom has always been the bold type and that’s for anything in life. I’ve watched it happen and she’s the G.O.A.T. at almost everything I’ll say. That’s not to take way from my dad but she doesn’t let anything get in her way. Now, she comes from a different time where the thing was for men just to go after the woman he wanted and build a life with her and not just a moment. That’s why I’m here today (wink, wink)! My dad shot hit shot and he scored it! He went for what he wanted. Now when my mom goes for something, there’s nothing to think about. Whatever mama wants, mamas gets.
So, why shouldn’t a woman be able to shoot her shot if she knows what she wants? Some men need a woman who can do the talking and walking more than he can. Women like this, know what they want, they fight for it and they don’t see competition because they believe in their own confidence. Once you have the confidence, you pretty much accomplished what you were going for to begin with. Men are known to know what they want in a woman and wife but who’s to say that women can’t know that about a man as well? We hear about what women want out of their personal life but when they know who they want that will compliment their life, they have him in mind and they ask God for him. He will arrive and maybe it’s her time to shine and not his. That’s all folks!
There are some people who are confident but then you have other people who think they are ether than others. Those that think they are better than others have this idea that everyone wants them or wants to be with them. Well ... I’m here to tell you that nobody wants you or wants to be with you because that type of attitude brings the wrong type of attention. There is nothing with having confidence in who you are because you beat the odds of things you never knew you could face. That’s the beauty of confidence but when you think you’re better than others that’s when it becomes a problem.
When you think you’re better than someone you believe that there is no one equal to you. Honestly, everyone goes through the same things to a certain extent and we all go to a higher power for our problems. Not to mention, those who think they are better than others are bitter nd miserable. As I said before, misery loves company and sometimes people are so caught up in having attention that they will do anything to have it and keep it. If you have to beg or try to keep attention to make you feel better in general or better than others, are you really that good of a person? Let think about it.
For example, I knew someone that liked me and I had to let them know I was spoken for but we remained friends. Okay fine right? But I had to block them because I felt that as soon as they were around someone else they began to act like someone they weren’t. They talked about how I blocked them and said I was mad with them yet begged for me to unblock them. How is that? You thought I was mad with you and thought it was funny that I blocked you yet you wanted me to unblock you. Everybody says, “Keep that same energy” when they’re actually the ones who need to keep it. So think about how much of a good person you think you are just because you have the attention that you think is cool. That’s all folks!
Too often the world doesn’t see the value of how important that Black woman is. Being a Black Woman, I see this too often especially through social media and done to the people around me. What makes no sense is that people don’t look at people as just human, they divide people up by status and color. Why? The only race is the human race. Nobody is the color black or the color white. Think about this here. We see different colors of different people and we go through just about the same struggles regardless of status yet racism exist. Then you have the woman herself. The woman gets objectified every day. Then you have the black woman specifically.
The black woman is always labeled as angry and people went her to be quiet or not say what she needs to say. She can’t be heard because people aren’t giving her hat platform or that say so. She shouldn’t even need to a say so because the black woman has rights just like any other woman of any other race as well. Why does she need to deter who she is because of what someone thinks or because they feel she might “offend” someone? Not to mention, when it comes to racism, the Black woman can’t protect herself the way she needs to but then you have men around her who don’t see her value and turn the blind eye to her. Black women are strong but we can’t always be super woman just because you expect it out of us. Sometimes we need that super hero to come help us when we feel lost, when we feel weak, when we feel like we want to give up and so on and so forth.
The Black woman is always there to protect everyone but when are these same people going to protect us and show us that we need back just as much as put out? We need more people to protect the Black woman because time and time again, our opposites are beating treated like queens for doing not even half of what we have done. Not only that majority of Black men are conditioned to believe that Black women have too much attitude meanwhile when things go left, we are there to pick up the pieces. Think about the things that we go throught mentally, physically and emotionally and how much It is thrown in our faces to see. The more we see yet nothing is being done. So what’s next? How is the Black woman now going to be protected? That’s all folks!
At this point I think we just about cancelled Robert Kelly after watching the documentary. We know what he did to these young girls and it’s ashamed that a lot of their parents let this happen to them as well. We can’t just think about the victims because they are victims for a reason. People have waited too many years to speak about a lot of things that Robert has done. Why? We will never know but st the end of the day no one can defend a man who out young females in harms way. These girls were far from adults but we do have to ask why the team and the parents didn not truly step up.
Most people say it was about money and others say that they want to take a black man down. I remember the first time these allegations came out but this was after his level of recent success prior to that. After the documentary, I knew there had to be truth to something. Also, most people know that Robert was also molested as a young child and his brother says that it was by their sister. Unfortunately it’s a sad case and this situation might have led him to move the way he did. He’s sick. Not to mention, we also knew about the relationship that he and Aaliyah had. Honestly, after the multiple sex tapes that were recorded, someone should have gotten Robert some help. He should have gotten himself some help.
We cannot justify what he did because there are girls who are getting sexually abused every day and none of these men are behind bars. Also, they have been abusers and they don’t find anything wrong with it causing these families to know about yet not saying anything. In addition, these females are scarred for life and have to live with what was done to them, they can’t personally do damage and majority of people won’t even believe them, especially their own family. Let’s really think about this. Why didn the manager of Robert speak up? Why didn’t Sparkle speak up and why didn’t he security guard speak up? Why didn’t the girl in the video with the 14 year old girl stop the situation? There are a lot of eeybrows raised high but the questions need to raised higher. Robert was wrong and if Bill Cosby can be in jail, so can he! That’s all folks!
Recently I had the pleasure of connecting with one of the dopest and most talented artist based in Philly. Many of you may know him just an artist but to the world he is know as “The Art Bully”. He and I get a chance to touch base on his art, career, goals and future plans as well. Take a look below!
1. What made you want to do art?
2. How did you know this was something you could do consistently?
3. Is there anyone that you would say you look up to or find inspiration from for your art?
4. What makes your art different from others?
5. How do you go about creating your art every day or often?
1. What are your career goals for your art?
2. Did you always know that you would go this far with your art or is this all new for you?
3. Who would you like to work with as you progress?
4. Do you plan on just doing art in Philly or do you always want to travel and make more of an impact?
5. What message do you want to leave behind with your art in the end?
1. What goals do you have as far as creativity in the upcoming year?
2. Who do you plan on working with if you have that in mind?
3. Do you plan on making more of your own merchandise for your art?
4. If you plan on making merchandise, would you want to open a shop?
5. If you ever have the time, have you ever thought about having art classes for people your age or younger? Why or Why Not?
Q1. Art is something that runs in my family and I just gravitated to it as a child. I feel like it chose me
Q2. I knew I could do it consistently when I realized having a regular job wouldn’t keep me happy. Then I got fired so I had no choice
Q3. I get most of my inspiration from life itself and my experiences with other people. Although Basquiat, Picasso, Warhol, Condo, and Kaws are some of my biggest inspirations.
Q4. What makes my art different from others is that I only create things that appeal to me and what I got going on in my life at the moment and no two lives are the same even if we may share similar experiences.
Q5. I like to try to create almost everyday even if it may only be a sketch. When I get fresh ideas I have to get them out on paper I then use process of elimination and how I’m feeling at the present time to determine what will actually make it to canvas
Q1. I want to go down as one of the best artist of my time !
Q2. I always knew I was going to be great at whatever it was I pursued in life but I’ll be honest, when I was younger I didn’t think art was going to be my career choice. I was always pretty good at it but I just didn’t really care for it as a teenager. My passion to pursue a career in art wasn’t until I became a college dropout and found a job I hated. Then one day I had a reality check and I knew that I had to utilize this talent that I’ve had all along if I truly wanted to be happy in life.
Q3. I’m not really pressed to work with anyone while I’m still building but if I do the vibes have to be genuine and it has to be a mutual understanding between both parties.
Q4. I want to use art as a tool to see and touch people all over the world. I love my city where I’m from but I’m always thinking bigger than Philly.
Q5. I want people to know that anything is possible and if I can do it you can too. Your dreams only work if you do
Q1. My main goal for 2019 is to showcase at Art Basel in Miami Beach
Q2. I don’t have anyone specific in mind but I would love to collaborate with a brand in the new fashion district here in center city when they open.
Q3. Hell yeah. I’m always thinking of new merch ideas. I love creating new things and seeing people actually wanting to buy them especially my clothes. And I also love how merch gives people who can’t really afford to buy my pieces a chance to own something I created.
Q4. Yes that’s actually a goal of mines for the near future. I want to start my own gallery too.
Q5. That’s another thing I want to do in the near future. I would hold art classes for the youth at my gallery when I open one. I want to help inner city youth never lose sight of their creativity and help them expand their thinking. Too many people let their creative side die as they get older I want to help stop that.
Thank you all for tuning in! To see more of The Art Bully’s work and to buy any pieces, make sure you take the time out to follow him via social media @theartbully_! Enjoy but for now, that’s all folks!
Every day on social media we see people talk about self care through posts. People have their own way of self care but it seems as though people always talk about traveling and the physical part of caring for yourself. Caring for yourself takes a lot just as much as it takes to care about someone else. Imagine if you would take care of yourself as much as you take care of another person? You could put that same energy into you and you’ll see how much you’ll flourish. Caring for others is quite alright as long as you don’t lose yourself or forget about who you are. Keep in mind that self care is about mental health as well.
Sometimes and most of the time, you need that time to yourself just to be alone which is okay as well. There is nothing wrong with being by yourself because you get to know who you are some more. You get to know what you love, don’t love, what you like or dislike and some more things about yourself that you come to realize. Finding yourself is the best part of life and learning more is the fun part too. All you have to do is remember who you are and go with that journey. Trust YOUR journey because nobody else walks it but you. People get caught up in being with someone to end up realizing they were with this person for the wrong reasons. Don’t be with someone because of social media or to say you have someone. The first battle you have to defeat is the one with yourself. You have to be honest about what you’re going through and what you need to detach from.
Once you come to terms with what you need to do with yourself, take time to make goals, create a plan and try new things. Self care is the best care and so is self love. Time reveals itself and remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day. PERIOD! That’s all folks!
Of course I have to be on my phone to type these blogs but aside from that I also know that I spend way too much on social media. Social media is great for business but when you begin to get lost withhin the extra part of it it begins to take a toll. For example, when I say the “extra” I am referring to comparing your life to others, constantly being updated on someone you choose to follow but don’t like and the negative things that are constantly being posted. Being on social media is like watching television after 5p. There is nothing but entertainment that doesn’t do anything for the mind. People are losing their focus and putting their mind on the wrong things instead enjoying life for what it’s about.
Kids are watching other kids play with toys instead of playing, kids don’t go out as much anymore and they don’t pick up a book to get lost into their imagination. Life is so different than it was in the early 2000s (especially for me). If everyone were to get trained to get back to what life actually used to me, people will begin to remember the purpose of life. Technology has made it to where family and friends don’t talk anymore because they don’t want to face these people or deal with emotions. We are locked in and close out reality. Reality is where everything happens and where you see everything for what it is and not the perceptions of others and situations.
Think about if all we knew was social media. If it were to be gone today or tomorrow, how could we function without it? Some people might even go out of their mind because they have been used to using their phone, they forgot what’s it like without it. The phone can be taken down for a day or two. Sometimes we need that break to regroup our minds and spirit. The phones can’t get lost but we can! Think about it. That’s all folks!
My name is Kennedie. I am a young woman still learning the ways of the world and how to manage. I am currently pursuing a degree in Mass Media. My purpose in creating my blog is to inspire others and to share as well as receive different points of view.