Sudan and its people are facing a horrible crisis that isn’t getting enough attention as it should. Women, men and children who are pro-democratic are fighting with the country’s enforcement. Due to this, unfortunately, Sudan is facing a massacre that seems to not be coming to an end. People are getting killed, there’s is no internet and it’s been a repetitive cycle for quite some time now. Now that people are are becoming aware of what is going on, people are changing their profile pictures (via social media) blue, people are sharing videos of what is going on in Sudan and the information is being spread at the speed of light. To go in to detail, there are people getting beaten, killed brutally and women are being raped. Since June 3, the toll of killings has went up 118 and 70 women have been raped (Refinery. com).
Aside from this information, I came across a video of security beating on a Muslim man with a stick just because. Watching that one video, broke my heart and made me sad because there is no reason to hurt the people of Sudan. What’s happening as we speak is because of people rooting for a good cause while people who don’t like it, would rather go out their way to keep things the way THEY WANT it. Society plays a huge part because once rules come into play, sometimes these same rules are meant to hinder a group of people. The fact that children are also getting hurt is another reason why people need to know about this crisis. If there is any help that could be done for Sudan, we need to get on it and see how we can support. America is already going through enough and we can’t ask enough for a better government. Also, for people to love Blacks just as much as they love hurting us and throwing us into jail for walking.
We ask for a lot from the people we expect to help us and these are the same people that come from the same hue as us. The least we can do is support Sudan in their time. There is more than just one crisis that is happening in the world but where we can help, we should speak on and be of help as much as possible. Support goes along way. Pray for Sudan!
I don’t think we talk about this enough but if we do then we don’t bring it to the light. There are two types of females in this world and you have the bitches and the women. These two are different because they both like to be treated with respect but only one has a lot to offer while the other has less. The Bitch has less to offer and that’s because all she does is have an attitude about things she can change. Also, she depends on everyone else and a man to take care of her and solver her problems. I see why some men call women bitches (I am by no means saying that it’s okay to call a woman this) because they can see right through a female and her ways. Just as much as women can predict the ways of a man, men can as well for women. A lot of women ask when is a good man going to come into their life but don’t have the qualities of a good woman let alone to be a wife and think that it’s a man’s job to save her. There are a good men and these are the same men who also realize that they have to be the right man for the right wife as well. The Bitches also have the tendency to break a man down to the point where he feels that he has to push her away as much as he can. Reason being is to make her realize that what she is doing and how she is acting towards him isn’t going to making a man be passive aggressive just because of his good ways.
Unfortunately, there are women like this that exist and these are some of the reasons why there are many good women who lose out on good men because they end up with the baggage of a hurt man. In addition, these are some of the same reasons why majority of women are alone and can’t figure out why they don’t have a good man by their side. They don’t realize how much baggage they bring into a new relationship because there wasn’t any healing and self reflection prior to finding someone new. The Women change the narrative and here’s why. The Women will by any means be with alone for the right reasons, because they know exactly who they are as people. They know what they like, dislike, love and don’t love. They also know the choices they have to the extent of stopping themselves from making bad decisions but also making the right decision that fits them best. The Women know that there are good men but if they aren’t ready because they don’t want a hurt a good man, they will stop themselves from falling short or “half-stepping” due to falling short. She also won’t project herself on others or make others feel like they NEED her in her life. In addition, she knows what she does and doesn’t bring the to the table if she doesn’t bring the full table. As I always say, I am by no means a guru but when you have an observation of how women make the world go round you can see the difference in how men shift by the women he associates with. For now, that’s all folks! I hope enjoyed this!
Nobody on this Earth is smarter than the next person because everyone that we come across teaches us something. We all can learn something from academics to morals but it’s all about how you teach an individual. On the other hand, the person that is learning should be able to comprehend what is being taught. Sometimes comprehension can be hard because they aren’t used to what they are being taught. The crazy part about it all is that sometimes the teacher can be upset and not want to have the patience. There is nothing wrong with letting someone find the information on their own to learn as well but don’t get upset. Another thing about people is that not everyone comes from the same foundation and people were raised different as well. The foundation and how you were raised plays a part because who you grew up with lacked some information that they weren’t able to pass down.
If some people, like myself, had certain information before, then I wouldn’t be learning what I know now. I do wish what I know now, that I learned earlier because life would probably have a different view but I’m also a firm believer that God has a path for us all. The plan doesn’t go by us but by Him/Universe. I think that people who teach lack patience because they may feel that what they know people SHOULD have already known. I read not too long ago about the Chakras that helps our spirit stay aligned and what stuck out the most for me was the Throat Chakra. I learned that if you speak negatively that is what stops the positive communication from happening with you and other individuals. With that being said, don’t hurt or talk down on someone because they don’t have or know certain information.
The way people comprehend information is also due to the way the information is shared. The way people should communicate is by talking with love and humility. If you have the ability to teach there is a way to do so. I hope that this has stuck out to some if not many because we should be able to teach without talking down on others. Those who want to learn should want to feel good about learning and eager to gain more information. That’s all folks!
The craziest thing to watch on television is someone who is not yet “out” about their sexuality because of the backlash they may get. Another thing that’s crazy to watch or even be aware of is the fact that your own people will disown you for being apart of the LGBTQ Community. No, this didn’t happen to me but you can see the changes in people once they know that you’re anything but straight. This has gotten so bad that there are people walking around with signs saying that, “Jesus hates you” and a lot more hate that is written on these hate signs. If I were straight, I wouldn’t care about how someone chooses to live their life or whom they choose to love. I mean, me being open about my sexuality, I still don’t care how people choose to love or love because that’s them and I’m me. What I would like to speak on is the difference in how whites and blacks accept the LGBTQ within their family or in their circle of friends.
Today, the media is being more “accepting” of the LGBTQ because they believe “it’s the thing to be” and “hey it’s 2019” but for many, being apart of this community is not about the trend. Being apart of the community is loving who you love freely, without those judging and hoping that someone accepts you for who you are regardless of your sexuality. Granted, what people think doesn’t matter but imagine how someone would treat you if they found out you liked the same sex. In the media, you see white parents get upset, think about it and suddenly become understanding of the situation. Then you have the Black family who is less accepting, will throw their child out of the house and disown them. Not to mention, they might treat you different by thinking less of you just because who you love. I have to stray away from the word “choose” because to me, people are attracted to whom they attracted to for a reason. A man may not be for a woman and a woman may not be for a man. I mean, hey that’s the world we live in.
In the Black Community, being gay and being less accepting of it goes back down in history. For those who don’t know, Black men were force down to be raped by their masters and they named the act “Buck Breaking”. In addition, this was a way to exploit the Black men. I can see why Black men and women won’t accept it. From my point of view, I’m not saying anybody should be more accepting but should be more understanding. In the Black home, it’s already hard enough to talk about your emotions and to add coming out to your mom and dad, could be the icing on the cake for them. If we are going to raise our Black children in a generation like this, we need to educate them about the LGTBTQ Community but with the notion of judging less yet being more understanding. Let’s change the narrative. That’s all folks!
Just because a friend or a best friend is not your lover doesn’t mean they can’t break you heart. A friend and/or a bestfriend is the person who knows us almost the same as our lover but just with less “responsibilities” on the title, I can guess you can say. A lover should be there during the times when it’s tough, when it doesn’t feel like anyone else doesn’t have your best interest and are there to keep you going when you feel like you can’t go on with their full support. This should happen when it’s their intention and friends/bestfriends should be there as much as a lover but to to a certain extent. When we don’t have that lover, there is always that one friend/bestfriend who is there when you need them at any given time. Then you have those who have this title but can’t act accordingly. If a person claims that they are your friend or bestfriend they won’t judge you, they will care for you, be there when you need them as much as possible and will be more understanding of who you are as a person. If this person is this way for you, you should be able to be that for them especially if they have this title in your life.
Sometimes we get caught up into getting to know someone so much that we end up doing a lot more for them than they would for us. This kind of situation has happened to all of us and when things go left, we are stuck with thoughts of why it didn’t work, if you’re a bad friend and why you’re left to be the bigger person. If you care about the friendship that much then it’s okay to be the bigger person sometimes. Friendships are very important because they teach you the value of integrity, loyalty and how to be there for someone even when you don’t talk all day every day. Friends/bestfriend grow up into different people and sometimes that one friend can’t handle it because they miss the old times and who you were during those times. Just because the person has grown doesn’t meant they’ve grown away from you but if that’s the case that’s fine too. People do outgrow each other.
Now the part where a friend/bestfriend is a thing because just as far as you can go for a lover, you can also do the same for a friend/best friend especially when you care that much. People will love you but they won’t always care for you they way you do for them. I’ve come across friends who never had my best interest at heart, wouldn’t go all out for me as I for them or they don’t show as much love as I do for them. I’ve also learned to take a step back as well because these type of people can get in the way of the real ones that we need. The one person you thought would have your back could turn your back on you, you two could talk one moment and fall out from a disagreement and/or stop talking completely for general purposes. Who knows? But anything can happen and these things could leave a person with a broken heart. With that being said, you should only choose those who choose you, reach out to those who reach out to you and love those who love you. Make sure your energy is reciprocated but don’t expect anything because that could lead to disappointments. That’s all folks!
I’ve been seeing this post about toxic moms over absent for quite some time now and I think it should hold a conversation. This post isn’t to say which is worst because they both can have an effect on the relationship that a mom or dad has with their child/children. I wanted to shed light on this topic because people always bring up the absentee of a father but don’t talk enough about the toxic baggage that mothers keep pinned up and put on her child/children.. Women already go through enough in this world but when things are being done to her personally and she holds the trauma in, she brings that trauma into relationships that turn out for the worst. In society, the woman is always held up at a higher standard and is expected to be strong through any circumstances. These expectations can lead to much so much stress that a woman feels that she doesn’t have that outlet to be heard about trauma.
The more she lives with this trauma on her back and feeling like no one understands her, she will always hold it in. The moment she feels like she’s found someone that can understand her, be there for her emotionally and can love her the way she needs to, her trauma will become baggage. Why? She hasn’t dealt with her issues; therefore, she will take all of her emotions and “unpack” all of her heavy loads on someone whom she expects to fix her. The cycle will repeat itself until she gets pregnant. Now that the woman is with child, all of her stress in now bottled up some more because she’s taking her baggage and putting the stress on the child/children. The child didn’t ask to be here but him/her are apart of this cycle. They grow up in it because now that the child/children is getting older, they are a reminder to the mother of whom she got pregnant by.
The more this reminder is setting in, the issues are also triggered as a past issue. These issues still are not resolved and still are being taken out on the child/children. These issues become a problem because however the mothers seems to feel about the father, she will then spew these same words to their child/children. The thing is, we need to have better outlets for women who deal with trauma because they need more understanding as to how that affects their present and future life. A woman shouldn’t have to keep her feelings bottled up because of what is EXPECTED of her. If she doesn’t have that room to talk, to feel and/or to stand up for herself she will let herself be treated less than and won’t be able to know her worth. Knowing your worth will lead to loving yourself, respecting yourself and will lead to knowing who is around to provide for or use you. A toxic mother should be a cycle that needs to be broken. That’s all folks!
I had to brace myself to actually watch this because when I read reviews on it, a lot of people said that they were hurt, they cried and also felt anger towards this. When They See Us is about the story of Central Park 5 which is based on the story of 5 black men (who were boys then) who got convicted of a rape and attempted murder that they never committed. The names of these men are Korey Wise, Yusef Salaam, Raymond Santana, Kevin Richardson and Antron McCray. On April 19, 1989 all of them went to Central Park to have some fun, they got caught by the Police, but a body of a white woman was found laying left for dead. Long story short they were held at the police station, got blamed for the incident and were sent to jail. The only person who served the longest time was Korey Wise. He went in 1989 and came out in 2001.
While I watched this story, I honestly felt angry but I was more hurt than anything because I felt like I wanted to save them. Nobody cared about them as they were boys and the fact that the system wanted to blame them is disgusting. We know why they did it but the fact that Linda Fairstein, a white woman, went out her way to blame these boys for something they didn’t do, showed us exactly how the system works. She made up an entire story without any evidence to back it up. Each of them got coerced into lying about the rape, thw cops recorded them but the kicker is they were questioned without parental supervision. Antron Craton did but his father was also coerced as well. He had to talk to him about actually doing the time in order for him to come home but it didn’t make sense. Why should they all lie? What exactly was this about? Who exactly was this about?
In addition, the part about Trump spending $85,000 on an ad to bring the death penalty back was beyond me because 30 years later he exposes himself even more about who he truly is. We all can agree on the fact that this whole story was shameful, anybody involved in this case who played a part in taking them down was wrong and them going to jail was outlandish. The story that stuck out the most to all of us was Korey Wise’s story because he was charged as an adult at 16. Watching his story made me want to cry, I wanted to hug and tell him that “I’m sorry”. All he wanted to do was come home to his family. Two scenes during his part that struck me the most is when he imagined his brother in the cell just for him to find out he was killed. Also the scene of him imagining he and his mom talking and hugging after she gave herself to God. The only thing I could imagine was how he felt and the things he endured.
Ava DuVernay really outdid herself with this story because though we heard about it, we didn’t know the details. Knowing the details helps us, especially African Americans, remember that we can’t trust the system. Even if we are right, they want us to be wrong. Even if we are good, they don’t want to see it. Even if we aren’t doing anything, they want us to react to THEIR wrong doing. For now, that’s all folks!
Nola Darling is back and she’s showing us her true self through her love life, happiness and art. I loved and really enjoyed this season of She’s Gotta Have It. Spike Lee always knows how to dig deep in his own art when it comes to his vision. In this season he really executed his plan and we got to experience who Nola Darling is on a deeper scale. I did enjoy the fact that she and Opal somewhat made it work but I didn’t like how Opal treated Nola. I feel like Nola could really be herself around Opal but Opal wanted Nola to be something that she isn’t. In other words, she “painted” this idea of Nola in her mind and since it didn’t coincide with reality, she was left disappointed. Another aspect I enjoyed but not a fan of, is how Nola got along with her past lovers Anthony Ramos who played Mars and Cleo Anthony who played Greer Childs without any strings attached. They kept it strictly platonic and supported her through her art journey.
Next, I didn’t expect Nola to move on from Opal so fast but I guess it’s true, she does have to have it. This taught me something about her as well. You can see that Nola isn’t afraid to be vulnerable but she’s also strong. She knows when to give herself to someone she may admire but also keep it out of reach from someone who is less deserving of her as well. Outside of watching this season, people are gagging over Nola and women can see themselves through Nola in some ways. Nola Darling to me is a representation of strong Black woman who is free spirited but also aware of things that go on society yet doesn’t let it break her. Many Black women can resonate with this as well. Also, the way she spoke through her art was beautiful as well because she didn’t just stick to one message. She created many pieces that gave a different message.
Through Nola’s art, love, freedom and happiness we can see in this season that she grew as a person and woman. Because of this, I hope to see another season of She’s Gotta Have It Season 3. For now, that’s all folks!
Moving on is a process, we get that but when you leave a toxic ex, they have this thing where they tell you how long you need to move on. They also have the tendency to try to control what you do and who you date. I mean of course they do it because they still have feelings for you, but they also feel like because they can’t move on, that you have to be just as miserable as them. Don’t get me wrong, we should all heal before we jump into something new because we don’t want to bring that trauma or extra baggage into the next relationship. The thing is we all don’t want to be alone but we shouldn’t use people to get over our last relationship. We also shouldn’t lead people on if it is not something we aren’t ready for.
Whether the relationship was toxic or you two walked away on good terms, I think that people should give themselves time. I say give yourself time because you want to reflect on what went wrong, what went right and what you can do better but don’t be afraid to meet other people. Everyone you meet doesn’t have to end up in your bed or you in theirs, when you can simply be friends to build from there. People seldom think that when they have interactions, that’s a one way ticket to a relationship. That’s not it. We have to learn people for who they are to take in account if they deserve our time and energy or not. That’s not a problem. We get blindsided by what people say rather than what they do and we have to do better with that.
No one should tell you, when and how to move on but they should encourage you to take care of yourself which will lead you to happiness for yourself. Some people will tell you, “To get over someone, you have to get under someone”, but that’s the wrong way. If we attach our energies to different people, we then possess those attributes making us into something that we are not. Start with your happiness and you won’t have to depend on anyone else to make you happy. That’s all folks!
We really hate to see the bad within someone but we also love to see the good. We love to see the good because we know how much this person can be good to us and other people but they choose not to because of their own insecurities. We have our insecurities but we have to learn how to work on them instead of projecting them on other people. We also have to understand that people do not come into our lives to fix us but to teach us something. At times, when people come into our lives to teach us and the lesson can be about ourselves. We learn something new about what we possess which could potentially give us that drive to do better and want better for ourselves as well. Red flags are an indication that we neeed to step away from something that could lead us down a long and bad road.
If we don’t detect or notice red flags within someone, we will be blinded sided by what they say rather than what they do. Actions will always speak louder than words. The reason being is because people say anything just to see how far they can get with you. They will also say things to use you and abuse you, and make you think that it’s okay to believe their word over their actions. You should always have a conscious mind to be observant as to what is being done around you so that you always know how to move the corect way. You don’t want to have to pay for a mistake that you’ve already could have avoided. In addition, there is always room for improvement to know when to move forward with someone or people for that matter.
When something doesn’t seem right, act off of that energy and move accordingly. Be that person who can step away to do right for yourself, not waste your time or another person’s time if you know it’s something you don’t want. If you want better, do better. That’s all folks.
My name is Kennedie. I am a young woman still learning the ways of the world and how to manage. I am currently pursuing a degree in Mass Media. My purpose in creating my blog is to inspire others and to share as well as receive different points of view.