What is it about people who don’t like when you show them how you feel but once you stop that’s when they want to show you they actually care about you? I’ll never undestood it but I’ve been that person who had to fall coward after falling back too much. We all have to play a part of being the good and bad guy in our lives. When I’m in a relationship I tend to be honest about how I feel and sometimes I feel like overdo it but I want the person to know how I feel. What I have learned in this process is that, just because I may feel one way or another about someone does not mean they SHOULD feel the same way. Now it’s one thing if you’ve expressed to a person that you like them then it’s expected of you to show that for better understanding. Then there is another thing when you know you don’t see yourself being committed yet want to waste time and see where it goes. If you know that you don’t see yourself with someone in the end, there’s no need to make things deeper than they have to be.
People who don’t want to express themselves do this because they have been hurt and have this guard up. You don’t have to fall back but you have to let a person know what to expect from you. In other words, you should be more upfront about what you want.
Every day it seems like everyone wants to be that spokesperson when it comes to a positive life. I mean we can all say we give great advice and that may be true but we have to follow what we say. I do this a lot but it’s because I hate gor people to be upset or be in the same emotional space as me but I should take my advice as well. Everyone who gives great advice should be able to take their own advice to be as happy as the persons who wants the advice from them. On the other hand, these same positive people can be the most negative people at times. As people would say, “They are for the people”. Listening to people who want to spread positive energy is always a great thing because even the people we follow have the tendency to change our mindseteand cause friction with our energy. We also have to keep in mind that everything we see on social media is not true so who’s to say that this person whom we get advice from isn’t the most depressed person who also is trying to help themselves as they try to help us. Also keep in mind that you can’t love or help anyone else unless you learn how to do it for yourself.
There are so many people I’ve seen who get on Instagram and use their different marketing features to promote a message but the next day, they have a different message and their tone, attitude and what they say suddenly changes. It’s amazing how the tables can turn in just a day. All I’m saying is “Keep that same energy” as the kids say. If you’re going to be positive be that and focus less on people who will make you be someone else that you don’t want to be. That’s all folks!
R. Kelly has been in the media for quite some time now and it’s about his sick ways with young girls. He had not been arrested around that same time when the story began circulating but as stories kept doing so he has finally been stopped in his tracks ... I guess you can say. The recent incident that has happened with R. Kelly is that he was charged with 10 counts of Sexual Abuse. It’s about that time we have heard something like this about him because we know about the history of what he’s been doing. I know everyone was thinking. This is great news and it’s about time something was done about it. The thing is, he was released on bond and that caused some more anger. I would have been angered as well becausethis is man who is sick and has a bad history of harming young girls.
Don't get me wrong, there are other people in the media who have done the same things and they should also have a consequence for their actions as well. The thing is, at this point, women are not getting the protection that they deserve and I have said this way too many times. For years and counting, women are always pushed to the side when they are harmed but when it comes to who they are and their sexuality they are immediately objectfied, treated like they are worthless and punished for not wanting to be sexual. Women are always put on a pedestal and then they get knocked down. Then when there is little help shown, there is not enough help. Too many women of all backgrounds are being shamed, punished and their character deminished because they value who they are and want to share their body with someone who they CHOOSE to share it with. Women have rights just as much as men and people who know these rights and claim to value them should fight as much for them as women do still today.
We are in 2019 and nothing has changed as far women being harmed. These men get locked up, don’t get charged, barely get charged and they aren’t taught about the damage that can come from what they do to harm women. Not to mention, it’s a slap in the face to women especially those who are still healing from what was done to them. That’s all folks!
Spike Lee is one of the greatest actors/directors in the game. He has always made a film that gave a lasting impression for years. Even though I’m young, I’m glad I was introduced to the making of Spike Lee. When I saw Do the Right Thing, I knew that he was someone who didn’t want to set any boundaries with his art. In other words if he has something he needs to be address, Spike Lee is the guy who will. I also enjoyed the moment that Samuel L. Jackson cheered him on. As some of you may not know, Spike Lee gave Jackson his first role for Jungle Fever. That’s another movie you should check out as well. The first time I ever heard about Spike Lee, I was 7 years old and it was about Crooklyn. The first time I watched it, I BEGGED my mom find the movie to keep for myself. She got the movie and I’ve been a fan since.
On February 24, Spike Lee won an Oscar for the Best Adapted Screenplay for BlacKkKlansman. I would say the film was great myself and he brought a lot of attention to a major issue in America behind a true story. This win is so monumental because as long as he has been in the industry, it’s about time we see a Black man win something for giving us nothing but his true self and true art. Spike Lee deserved this win and we hope for many more awards to be won. You go Mookie!
As we would say here in Philly, “Ever the fraud like” but seriously! When this crazy incident happened we really had this man’s back. There were so many people who rooted for him with their love and prayers sent to him as well. Honestly, I knew something was fishy when I saw this alleged photo of him in the hospital with just a little scar on his face because I would have thought what “happened” to him would have been more damaging. That’s just me though y’all! This is crazy because not only were people standing behind him, imagine how these same people are looking at him now. Not only that, imagine how the people he works with feel and this just had to happen during Black History Month. Why Jussie? Just why? Well ... sources do say that it was over not having enough pay as an actor for EMPIRE. My whole thing there is, you’re already on the show and I’m sure you make a great amount to take care of yourself and your needs. I get standing up for what you believe in but don’t be selfish while doing so.
I was shocked to hear that it could have been a scam but I also wonder if Lee Daniels has something to do with this too. Not to stir the pot but this incident definitely raises some eyebrows and some more questions. Not to mention, how much they love each other and the close friendship that they have. We’ve all seen it and heard about it, so the question could come about. More and more I see why people LIVE by the saying, “Money is the root of all evil.” My word of advice here would be, don’t let the money control you. That’s all folks!
Abducted in Plain Sight is about a young girl named Jan Broberg who was abducted at the age of 12 by a neighbor. I don’t think the guy’s name matters because the story is what’s going to cause you to have some “What the fuck” moments. We know that these type of cases often happen and it’s bad they happen so much because we not only question the people around the child, but the parents as well. The parents are the main people who are responsible for their child/children and they should know who their child/children are around. You can’t let your child/children be with anyone because you don’t know of the harm that a person or people will cause your child/children. I always think about the day I’ll actually have a little me but what stops me is how rapidly I see the world changing day by day.
Back to the story at hand though! The neighbor basically spent time with Jan and her family to get close to her and for sexual relations. The crazy part about all of this is that the neighbor had his own family but he couldn’t stop finding his way to Jan and her family. He was so sick that the parents didn’t even think not one time that he would cause any harm to Jan or their two other daughters. In addition, he also manipulated them and used them to get to Jan by having sex with them. Honestly, I’m just as shocked as everyone else was when they watched it. What got me the most is that the mom had this sexual relationship with the neighbor for 8 months . Not to mention the fact that the mom and dad had some suspicions about the neighbor because of how close the neighbor wanted to be with their daughter Jan and prior to them having sex with him. To be honest I could not watch the rest of it because when the mom mentioned the 8 month affair , I was through!
My thoughts on this incident is that it overall breaks my heart that a 12 year old girl was alone in this because the parents really say they didn’t have a clue of what could have happen to their child/children. Also, I’m upset that there are people who are sick like the neighbor and nothing left is being done to these people unless they’re in jail. People need to start believing young women, their pain and there needs to be more time faced for those who are out to harm young women and men at that. That’s all folks!
Cali Shabazz is just one of a kind with everything that she does. She works, she’s a mom and business woman all in one. I mean who can keep up with three jobs like she can? I can only imagine how much time and effort that can be. Cali has been into fashion since she was a young girl and would hold fashion shows at home. As you can see fashion has been apart of her life for some quite some time. As she got older, fashion never left her side. Every day for school she would find ways to create different looks. No matter what people thought, she always stood out. She also dipped her hands into other fields like photography and she used this to photographed her first shoot.
Cali and I talked about everything from life to love but I couldn’t help but knowing more and more about how Dear Laney began to progress. I also got more insight about what to expect for the following years to come. For someone being in the fashion industry, you would expect them to want to be as big as the other business but they show you a humbling side that we all love to see. WhenCali started Dear Laney, she made this for women to feel free and appreciate their beauty. Her line is to make the woman feel good! As she builds her brand, she’s also plays mom and she has nothing but great things to say about her son. By the look in her face, he makes her happy and he’s the reason why she goes so hard as a boss woman. In addition she has 100% support from her family and friends when it comes to her business and people have nothing but great things to say.
As much as Dear Laney is growing I personally can see this brand expanding to another city for everyone to enjoy. Every day she has someone wanting to get a product or asking about products that she’s already sold out. Cali works hard to get you what you want and stops at no end. This is the love of her life, and as she says, even if her business doesn’t get as big as another well known business, she knows of the hard work she has put in. We can’t wait to see what she has coming up next and what this season brings for her! To see more from Cali, be sure to follow her via Instagram @cali_shabazz and @xodearlaney! Enjoy! That’s all folks!
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Even at 23 I still get nervous to try and let someone know I am interested in talking to them or getting to know them. Females have told me It is cute but to me being nervous over a few words can be such a drag. Then there’s that part when you don’t know what’sgoing to happen next after you tell this person that you want to get to know them. I mean hey, we have all been rejected once or twice in our lives. Sometimes we can’t have our cake and eat it too. Ain’t that something? But some of us actually get upset when the reaction doesn’t turn out the way we wanted it o. The harsh reality is that not everyone is going to want your time and you have to be understanding of the fact that you are not the only one who has gone through something that has changed your life around. The events that take place in our lives are the things that forces us to grow.
This is where we have to learn to humble ourselves and that’s when we see someone we may find extremely attractive. There will always be a lot of attractive people in the world but just because they look good does not meant they are good. Every good looking person that you see is not an invitation for you to try to get to know them as not only friends but lovers as well. Not everyone needs for you to approach them .The best way to avoid extra drama in your life is by being humble and staying out of the way. You don’t need to speak to everyone. Let them speak to you and get on your level. So to shoot or not shoot your shot? Hey, that’s for you to answer! That’s all folks!
Many of you are probably thinking, “I didn’t even know she was that old!”. I get that a lot and people think I’m 12 but that’s not the case at all lol. So this is my last year of college and things seem to be hitting me hard with all of these assignments. This last semester I have five courses but I’m glad I do because I can get everything done without having to worry about taking a Summer class. God willing I will finish this semester off the right way and make myself and others around me proud. I have to say that four years of college has beeen an experience for me but overall it was fun and eventful. I didn’t always go to the college events or hang out all the time. I do love to talk to people and people know who I am but I was and still am the laid back girl who minds her business.
This last semester is really teaching me about how bad I want my degree and I want it really bad! I’ve been pushing and pushing to get things done. I’ve been doing really well so far and that I am proud of because after Winter Break I slack in the beginning because I have to get adjusted to school again. Even though things have its way of being a hassle, I can admit, it is well worth it. The first year of college, I lost my baby sister to a sickness and from there that was motivation. She was a fighter and didn’t give up. I felt like I couldn’t give up and I didn’t. All I keep saying now is that, “I need to graduate because I am through.” I know my coworkers are sick of me but I really am through y’all. This post was more about reflection because this has been a journey that I won’t forget.
Other than that, I am excited for what’s to come after school because I have so much I want to do as far writing and creating. Now I will have more time to invest into my career more than anything and I can share with the world my talent some more. So I’m going to make this semester as great as I can and do the best I can. With that being said, that’s all folks!
We all can admit that sex is a beautiful form to show or make someone feel how much you care or love them. Sex can be something that can be used to just make you feel good for the moment and sometimes you just need that stress reliever. We all have been there but sex can get in the way of so many things when you let it consume your life and you believe this is the only way to show love. When two people are together, sometimes there can be one individual who is doing more than the other and the person who is doing more can be more caught up in their business than their relationship. Sometimes these people don’t want to get that consumed in their work but other times things just have to get done. Now when the other person has time, they can think more about the relationship especially the intimate part of things.
i can admit, with me being 23 I am more than focused on school and my career. I’m in love with what I do and I don’t want anything or anyone to get in the way of that. I’m also on a spiritual journey with myself and want to have peace in my life as much as possible. Because of these aspects alone, sex to me is no big deal. There are days when I want to and there are other days when I don’t to get intimate. I will admit that if the sex is really good, I’m on the receiving end more than the giving end and that’s where I fall short. Sometimes I don’t want to be that person and I admit it can be strenuous on my relationship but I can only do best to be the best. Let’s think about this though, sex can’t always be that thing that drives your partner to want to do better for themselves when they should already want that. To me if sex is the motivation, what else are you driven by to get things done for you? What you want to do for yourself can’t be done FOR you but BY you. Sex can feel good for the moment but what if you don’t aspire to do what you need to do or want to do?
Sex can become a cloud and you can end up thinking that’s all you need when there’s more than enough motivation in front of you to want to do things for yourself. Everybody should find the motivation from within themselves to want to do better instead of trying to get validation for who they are from who they’re with. So, is sex really everything when you put other things in pespective, at least to me, not so much! That’s all folks!
My name is Kennedie. I am a young woman still learning the ways of the world and how to manage. I am currently pursuing a degree in Mass Media. My purpose in creating my blog is to inspire others and to share as well as receive different points of view.