Man, oh man! I know I already made a post about 2016 but it's amazing how fast time can just go by. I feel like I remember everything that took place this year on each day. I can't believe we are at the finish line. All in all I'm thankful that God gave us another year to get it right. This is page 365 of 365. So my questions to you all arebwhat were your greatest moments of 2016? What did you learn? What will you change to make 2017 a better year for you? I hope that everyone has a better year in 2017 and that they achieve every goal and dream that they want to accomplish. Remember success doesn't come without struggle but be prepared and learn how to fight through it. Do not stress or give up because God is on your side and don't forget to pray. Believe in yourself, never sell yourself short and take heed into everything that happens around you.
Check out the best of my 2016 below! Enjoy! I hope that everyone has a great year and may God bless you all!
We always fall for people during the honey moon stage and hope the feeling of that stage would last for a life time. Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that. We always are on social media or looking at tv wishing that we had the same relationship as the people that they show us. We want a relationship like Martin and Gina, Dwayne and Whitely or Amber and Wiz and the list goes on and on. Social media and tv only shows us the good side which causes us to believe that it's supposed to stay that way but it doesn't.
Relationships are going to have its ups and downs, there will be arguments and sometimes the spark won't always be there. There are some questions that you should ask yourself as this happens. Is it worth it? Do they love me enough for me to stay? What do I bring to the table? Or how can I make this work? There is so much time and thought that goes into staying with someone but also knowing if you should walk away. The question that always seems to surface is if someone would still make it work if the other person cheats. People compromise if it's marriage but if not married, they are willing to walk away from everything.
Personally, I think walking away regardless of anything would be best if someone cheats. If someone cheats that means they made that choice to do it and they want something from this person that they aren't getting from you. Instead of talking it out they choose the hard way out thinking it's easy. Cheating is a choice and once a person cheats they'll be sorry and they'll say they didn't mean it. They meant it for their benefit and they're only sorry because you feel hurt because of it. Walking away from it, gives you time to think about if you stay will they be willing to change or will they take advantage of you if you stay. Of course once the cheating is done, the trust is lost immediately. The only way a person could gain it back is if they're willing to change and mean it. If you go back you have to base everything off actions. Just because someone apologizes doesn't mean they won't do it again.
Cheating within a marriage aside from being girlfriend and boyfriend is worst because there a bond and vow that was made upon that marriage. Also you have to have God in your relationship in order for it work. There will always be sacrifices and/or comprises to be made if you're loving this person for the rest of your life. Are you willing to stay if they cheat because its marriage or will you walk away? Does it matter if you're married or not to stay? What do you think?
I made this post to continue to talk about bringing back chilvary, real conversation and dates. You know, times have changed so much and people don't know how to really talk to one another or court one another. Why? There's no definite answer but one of the main reasons is due to social media and cell phones. Social media already gives people an idea of who you are which makes it easier for everyone to make assumptions! As far as cellphones, people are always using their phones more than to actually talk on the phone. Everyone usually texts and stays on social media. It's crazy right? You ever see in the movies when people actually talked on the phone, took the time out to go on dates and actually talk? Yea? Me too. Suddenly the world changed.
Now how do we get back to that? Do we ask our parents? Possibly. Most of them are up on the new fads or trends but they also come from a time where the iPhone and the internet didn't exist when they were our age. Communication was a big step before trusting someone. The more you communicate with someone, you can actually get to know someone. Also going out together you get a sense of what one another likes to do and what kind of people you two are. Romance can only be dead if you choose not to really take an effort to get to know someone.
This generation lacks conversation and effort. Conversations are more about sex, instead of asking about the future, goals, education and more important topics. People are in touch physically instead of mentally. What is physically attraction without mental attraction? Physical attraction can soon fade but once the minds connect you become more interested. As far as effort people always want one person to put in the effort to see how much they are willing to without putting out the same energy which is another problem. Why can't people put out the same effort if they're both supposed to be interested right?
Romance is about effort and more conversation than ever. It's about getting to know who that person truly is to know if being with them is worth it or if they're better off as your friend. Texting and lack of effort isn't going to go anywhere. So really is romance dead or do people not know how to communicate?
Have you ever been on social media and people talk about what they're so savage and they'll cut someone off fast due to be long so broken from being hurt in the past? People always talk about how they became a different person because their heart got broken. They also get in the habit of cutting people off fast due to certain characteristics without really getting to know the person they're trying to get to know.
I mean, why do you want to be savage or cut people off when you really haven't dealt with yourself personally to realize that everyone is not the same. Really everyone is not the same. A lot of people especially today cut people off over something small without finding out the signs or seeing if it's worth it. If you have to keep trying but you feel like you're not going anywhere with it, which should be the first sign right there. There's one thing to be interested but there's another thing to make a fool of yourself. You don't want to make a food of yourself. When you feel like you have something good, at least try to make it work.
People always blame their past for making them who they are today as if that's a pass. That's not a pass. Either you can grow from it and form a better mindset or you can mess around and become that person and treat other people how they treated you. You never want to do that. 1. You don't don't need Karma to come back. 2. You treat others the way you want to be treated regardless of how you were treated. That shows good character and most importantly it shows growth. You don't want to walk around saying you always cut people off or that you're petty or think it's okay to treat someone based off how they treat you based off bad energy.
Don't make excuses but learn how to grow from the past and let it be. Never let anyone turn you into someone you're not. That's weak. Anything that has broken you down is something you should grow from and learn from. You learn to not give up on yourself and what's to come ahead with other people. Don't be a victim of your past.
2016 was rough for me in the beginning. I was not feeling school, I wanted to give up and thought my show was not going to progress at all until I met Raelia Lewis, international model form Philly. Also an contestant on America's Next Top Model. I went to her book release event, she said that she would be on my show for on an interview and from there , the blessings began pouring in.
I thought it was would be a bad year because I was not trusting myself enough to make changes for myself that would make me a better person. I had to let go of old people, bad habits and bad attitudes. I'm still working on it but I'm getting better each day. All life is about is happiness at the end of the day. We all have our days but it's about what we can change our stem from to help us progress. There is a lot of people I've seen post about how bad 2016 was but think about it. Ask yourself why was it bad for you! Why did it start off good then end bad or vice verse? What you did this year should not be important next year. Why? Because it's a new year thefore it brings a new future ahead.
The future ahead of us is full of surprises. You should want to see what's ahead. Don't be afraid of what's head because there's greatness on the other side of terror. I just watched a clip of Will Smith speaking of fear. His point was that as soon as you become afraid that's when something great is about to happen which is so true. Every time that I felt that I would fail a test this semester I forgot about the work I put in to pass forgetting that dedication brings forth the celebration. The more you work your ass off to do things for you, you will then see why certain people are not in your life or why certain situations that you want to happen do not happen . God has something greater for us but if we want to see that we have to change things outside and most importantly inside of ourselves.
Also, you should ask yourself, "If I keep doing the same things over and over to get the same results what should I do different? What exactly can I change?". Everything that happened in 2016 leave it here and move forward. You have another 365 to get right and change for the better. You got this! You can do it!!!
We seldom have to experience certain situations to understand what is and what is not meant for us. Sometimes we have to go through bad relationships, bad friendships or anything else that is going on with us interpersonally. Every day that we wake up we have the choice of how our day will be and what energy we choose to feed into. We have to realize that there will be days that we aren't together and there will concatnt days that we are. Within each day we have a choice on whether or not we want to deal with. We also have the choice of choosing the people we want be around.
We forget that people will show us what they want. They energy we get firsthand is the energy we only know. We may not get to know this person outside of the energy we got firsthand but once we get to know someone we have decide are they type of person that deserve our time. People who show us who they are, we have to believe them because if we continue to bypass the signs we then point fingers forgetting we made a choice to deal with certain characteristics based off facts such as loving them, wanting to know them more or wanting have a future with this person. Nah, it's not always like that and shouldn't be. Why? The reason being is because people will let you keep coming back just for them to waste your time. Also God will allow it so you can understand you need to move on.
On certain occasions, people just want attention and want you to want them when you know that's not what you need, want or want to deal with. Everything that goes on in your life is a reflection of you and what you want to make your life better. Remember those who can't deal with who you are or can't balance out with you, those are the type of people you don't need. Also if a person is coming to you indirect with bad energy, they think they're doing something right but ruining who they are. To go out and seek attention to destroy a person's peace is to be little. Every dog, has its day.
Yo girl is back at it again, y'all knew that!! I fall back but I never fall off!!! You all know me, I'm always on social media looking and checking new things out. Today happened to be the right day just in time for a new post and a music post at that!!! Of course I was on Instagram and found this new song and artist.
So far I have to say that GoldLink has a hit here and quite talented but this song really caught my attention. Everybody was great on the song don't get me wrong but it's the chorus that got my attention the most because it has meaning and what it says in the chorus is apart of every day life. The lyrics if anything are the best part of the song and the beat. It sounds good and it flows. I listen to it repeatedly now!
We've had so many hits come out this year that have been played over and over again it's about time we had something fresh. I haven't listened to J. Cole yet but when I do I'll be sure to give my input. Make sure you check this track out though family!!!
My name is Kennedie. I am a young woman still learning the ways of the world and how to manage. I am currently pursuing a degree in Mass Media. My purpose in creating my blog is to inspire others and to share as well as receive different points of view.